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By
Jennifer Klein, Dateable.com
Dating can be tough and first
dates can be painful. So what
are you to do? Here is a list
of dating tips to start the
year out right!
· Meet your date out and
drive yourself. If you want to
bail out early, you won't be
trapped. Also, when you have
your own car. If things work
out, you won't have any
worries about inviting your
date in or not. This helps
protect you from your own
impulses, because what's worse
then "will he respect me
in the morning?" is
"How much will I hate
myself when I wake up?".
Also when you have your own
car, no need to worry about
safety, your date does not
know where you live. This
protects you from a date
turned bad turning in to a
stalking nightmare.
· Keep the date simple.
You're nervous enough without
making a big show, plus you
don't want to lock yourself in
to an evening you won't enjoy.
· Men, end the date first.
You will make yourself stand
out.
· Women, don't wear anything
low cut or short. It sounds
like an old cliché but your
first date knows very little
about the woman you are. He
will take you at face value
and you don't want to give the
wrong impression.
A friend of mine went out for
dinner on a blind date. She is
a very conservative women, who
really likes to take her time
in relationships. All of us
who know her know this about
her. Her date didn't. She went
out on the date wearing a sexy
low cut cocktail dress. They
went to dinner, had a
wonderful evening, and when he
walked her to her door, he
pounced on her! She was of
course surprised and upset,
but her date didn't know her,
he just took her at face
value.
· Wear clothing that you are
comfortable and confident in.
First dates are uncomfortable
enough without a tight belt
biting you around the waist.
· Men, be specific about
where you are going. This will
make the date more
comfortable, and will prevent
her from wearing a cocktail
dress when you are taking her
bowling.
· Ask about your date. Each
of us knows we are the most
interesting subject :) But the
most interesting
conversationalists are people
who ask about others. Great
light topics are work,
hobbies, sports, kids (if they
have any). If you are really
stuck for topics to talk
about, and questions to ask,
on the Dateable.com
site, in our advice corner,
under romance, single life, we
have a great article by
Penelope Frohart author of
"The Book of Fabulous
Questions" called
"What do I talk about on
a date?". She offers some
great advice. http://dateable.com/advicecorner/
· Easy on the perfume. You
want to knock his socks off,
but you don't want to knock
him out!
· Don't forget to use
mouthwash before you go out.
· Don't order sloppy food. If
you are not paying for what
you order, try to stay in the
middle of the menu.
· Keep the conversation
light! Don't talk or ask about
old boyfriends, girlfriends,
or ex-spouse. This is a first
date, not a therapy session.
· Find out about your dates
eating habits before you plan
the evening. Make sure you
choose a place where they will
be able to find something to
eat.
· Be attentive! There is
nothing worse then a date
peering over your shoulder
making you feel as if they are
looking for something better.
· If you are not paying be
considerate of what you order.
Try to stay in the middle of
the menu.
· And last, but not least,
have fun and be yourself!
© Dateable.com LLC 2000
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