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Title:
Stimulate Arousal with Erotic
Videos
Author: Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Article:
We can use erotic videos for a
variety of purposes other than
the obvious. Of course the
most obvious being that it is
visually stimulating and can
heighten our arousal and
excitement
level. But we can also use
them to create ideas for
things we
haven’t tried yet. We can
learn new techniques and
positions. We
can learn to satisfy our
partner better and improve our
love
making skills.
During periods we are without
our lover it can be a great
source
of stimulation for
masturbation. It can keep us
company when we
are lonely. If one partner is
not in the mood or not feeling
well it can be a good
substitute for arousal.
They can also help us become
more comfortable talking
openly
with our partner about desires
and preferences. The video can
be
a good way to bring up
subjects that we may be
reluctant to
bring up out of the blue.
We can also use videos for
fantasy fulfillment. We can
enjoy
watching activities that are
arousing to us, but may be
something we don’t really
want to do in reality. For
example; a
woman may fulfill her fantasy
of being with another woman by
watching a girl/girl video or
a male may fulfill his fantasy
of
being with two women by
watching a M/F/F threesome.
We can take the scenes in
videos into our fantasy mind
and do
numerous things with them. We
can fantasize that we are in
the
video with them and we are
actually the one experiencing
the
satisfaction. We can fantasy
that characters we find
attractive
are having sex with us in our
bed.
Another fun option is to
create your own erotic video.
It can be
very fun and exciting
performing in front of the
camera for or
with your lover. You can make
one of yourself masturbating
and
give it to your lover as a
gift or surprise. You can
video tape
your lovemaking session and
not only will it be exciting
and
arousing at the time your
doing it, but then you can use
it
later to watch together and
use for stimulation for
another
session. Or either one of you
can watch it alone when one is
away and use it for some good
masturbation stimulation.
Erotic videos come in numerous
varieties with different
levels
of sexuality. It is important
to find a level of sexuality
in
them that is comfortable for
you. Some videos are more sexy
and
erotic and include love and
romance and have a story line.
Some
videos are raw, animalistic,
down and dirty. Some are plain
raunchy, while some are
education while also being
erotic. If
you watch a raunchy video and
it is a turn off for you, then
try
finding something that is more
about love and eroticism with
a
story line. If you find raw,
down and dirty offensive then
it
will not be a turn on for you,
so it is important to
experiment
and find which ones are
arousing for you. You and your
partner
may have different desires
when watching videos, so it
will be
necessary to discuss your
preferences and find something
that
you can compromise on or
perhaps take turns watching
what one
prefers one time and the other
another time or let your
partner
watch his before you enter the
room.
Please keep in mind there
should be a healthy balance in
regard
to Erotic Videos. If you or
your partner finds videos that
contain activities such as
snuff, incest, or violence,
arousing
then it would be wise to seek
some counsel. If you or or
your
partner find that you need to
watch Erotic Vidoes
excessively
then again it would be wise to
seek some counsel. Erotic
Videos
should be only a piece of your
sexual repertoire, not
something
you become dependent upon. The
Erotic Video should enhance
your
sexual experience not
interfere in it. If you find
it is
interfering in your intimacy
then some addiction may be
occurring and once again some
counsel should be sought. Any
sexual activity you engage in
should increase your sexual
intimacy.
About the author:
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. is a
writer, educator, advisor and
coach
specializing in sexual
intimacy, erotic communication
and
keeping the fire burning in
your relationship. A FREE E-zine
packed full of tips, advice
and erotic stories to keep the
sizzle in your relationship
can be found at her website.
http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul
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