|
Spicing Up Routine Sexual
Activities
Author: Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
One of the biggest complaints
among couples is that sex
becomes
routine and loses some of the
excitement. A good way to
prevent
this from happening is to
spice up some of your routine
activities. Try some of the
following.
While having intercourse
stimulate your own clitoris or
let your
lover stimulate your clitoris
with his free hand or with a
vibrator. You will find that
your hand or a vibrator can
easily
slide between you and your
lover regardless of what
position you
are in.
While giving fellatio, wet
your finger and rub your
lovers anus
or insert it slightly inside
the anus or penetrate deeper
if
they enjoy it. Stimulation of
the anus during fellatio can
enhance fellatio to ecstatic
heights for some men.
This also applies to women.
While giving her oral use your
fingers or vibrator to thrust
within her vaginally while
licking
her clitoris or wet your
finger and rub or penetrate
her anus.
While having intercourse reach
between his legs and gently
massage his testicles. This
will feel especially good if
you
slide your hand through your
juices and then massage your
juices
over his testicles.
Instead of watching an erotic
video make one of your own. It
can
be very exciting and arousing
to perform in front of the
camera.
You can then watch the video
in another session for some
additional pleasure.
Add some flavors to your oral.
Food such as fruit, chocolate,
ice cream or any favorite food
of yours or your lovers can be
very tasty and add some
playfulness to your routine.
Bananas are
particularly tasty and fun.
Prior to having sex take a
shower together and wash each
other.
This makes us squeaky clean
for some great oral and
provides us
with a great opportunity for
arousal and setting the mood.
While
in the shower you can have
some appetizer sex or make it
the
main course. Bending over in
the shower and doing doggy
style
standing up can be particular
fun and enjoyable. The wetness
of
the shower provides great
lubrication and allows for
thrusting
with great ease and deeper
penetration.
If you typically have sex in
the bedroom then have sex in
other
rooms in the house such as the
kitchen floor or table, or the
living room couch or carpet,
or on the stairs, or on the
sink in
the bathroom. You can add some
extra special spice by doing
it
on the patio, in the yard or
on the children’s play set
in the
sunshine or underneath the
moonlight.
If you typically have sex at
night with the lights out,
then
have sex with the lights on or
with candles or have it in the
morning or in the afternoon.
If you typically have only
intercourse then try having an
evening of nothing but oral
sex.
Take turns satisfying one
another so that each of you
can devote
all your attention to the
other orally.
Give your lover a massage, but
instead of using your hands
use
your mouth and tongue.
To add a little pizzazz to the
missionary position you can
put a
pillow underneath her butt and
this allows for deeper
penetration and it allows her
to stimulate her clitoris on
your
pelvic bone and you can both
reach orgasm together.
The key here is variety and
adventure. Do activities,
techniques
and positions that are unique
for you as a couple.
About the author:
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed is a
writer, educator,
therapist/advisor/coach and
holistic health consultant
specializing in Erotic
Communication, Sexual
Intimacy, Soul
Satisfying Sex as well as
issues of living with chronic
illness,
chronic pain or disability.
Sexuality services can be
found at
http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul
and Chronic illness
services can be found at
http://www.holistichelp.net
dating
services | online
dating
| adult
personals
|
|
