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Sexual Energy!
Author: Joseph Ghabi
How open are we when it comes
to talking about sex? We are
all
so captivated, yet intimidated
and shy about sex. It always
seems to play in the back of
our own minds. My question is
just
how much are we appreciative
of our sexuality?
Whilst growing up we are not
taught a great deal about the
truth
behind our own sexuality. The
reason being that society has
not
allowed us to experiment our
true sexuality and what that
really
means to its full extent. This
seems to be so, especially
where
religion is concerned. There
is always the conflict about
sexuality with religions on
the whole!
What is it that we are afraid
of when we come to talk about
our
sexuality? How well do you
communicate your needs and
preference
of your sexuality with your
partner? Or do you even know
what
your sexual needs and
preferences are? How acceptant
are you of
our own sexuality?
To begin with, we live in a
society which has been based
upon
many old thoughts and ideas
that are really no longer
functional. These ‘ideas’
have been, in many instances,
dictated
to us by our own religions and
the circumstances we grew up
in.
Sex has grown to become
something we are fearful of in
both our
conscious and sub-conscious
minds. So much so that we are
no
longer aware of how to
approach or handle the
subject! In
reality, we should not allow
this to be our obstacle or a
setback in sexual life. We
must now take the initiative
to try
to figure out our own
sexuality.
What is Sexuality? Sexuality
is defined as the individual
inclination of any human soul
for their sexual preference.
Sexuality is an individual,
shared and energy-centered
affair.
Through time we have allowed
ourselves to become accustomed
to a
set of rules in terms of how
other people view and judge us
when
it comes to our own sexuality.
What is right and wrong?
In order to embrace sexuality
as a whole, you must first
identify your own sexual
preferences. I believe this is
one of
the most important factors in
this subject and is very
important
that you discover it for
yourself and accept it as
something
that is a part of you and not
something you should be afraid
of.
Are you homosexual,
heterosexual, bi-sexual or
whatever else you
can possibly be sexually?
Regardless of your sexual
orientation,
sex is still an individual,
shared and energy-centered
affair.
Don’t you think? Both men
and women alike are sometimes
having
problem in identifying their
own sexuality. Let’s be
honest
here, even from time to time
we do have the tendency of
thinking, at least, somewhere
in the back of our minds what
it
would be like to be with a
partner of the same sex. Being
continuously evolving human
souls we have already
experimented
different past lives being
either of the sexes in order
to bring
our soul to grow having
balanced experiences with both
the male
and female energies.
I believe the problem
concerning sex in our society,
especially
the way we look at and judge
each other by stereotyping
someone
by their sexual preference is
wrong. Let’s take a gay or
lesbian
human soul for example, why do
we insist upon stereotyping
them
from the crowd? Oh! I forgot
they are not normal! Well
according
to what or to whom? How do we
define what is really
‘NORMAL’?
Yeah now I remember, it was
according to biology and our
human
reproduction system and also
those attitudes we learnt from
religion. Why do we need to
reproduce? There are numerous
issues
that influence us in terms of
religious belief and in many
cases
such religious issues thrive
upon forcing fear and guilt
upon us
for embracing our sexuality
openly and by using that fear
and
guilt it enables that religion
to keep control of people and
it
grows as we pass those beliefs
down to our children and them
to
their children and throughout
the many generations. That
alone
helps the religion sustain its
own growth by reinforcing our
beliefs to those of their own
belief system. Then is it
basically for our own
advantage or for the advantage
of the
belief system?
Let me define the different
aspects of sexuality which
exist
within their three levels.
First, sex is an individuality
act. We have been taught since
early childhood and throughout
our upbringing by some belief
system that exists out there
to be ashamed, fearful,
un-easy and
that it is against God’s
wishes for us to embrace our
individual
sexuality in terms of us
understanding our body and our
own
sexuality. Sex is energy, God
is energy and we are part of
that
energy. We are brought up
being told not to enjoy our
individual
acts of sexuality because it
is dirty. We were always made
to
feel guilty about doing it.
When I talk of this
‘individual act
of sexuality’, what I am
referring to is the act of
masturbation. Why have we been
deprived of expressing our own
personal sexual needs as an
individual? The main reasons
for
this does relate to what I
stated previously. Our
individual
sexual act is a natural
phenomenon for either men or
women and
this can not only provide us
with personal satisfaction,
but it
can also serve as an energy
release system which helps us
have a
clearer mind which will enable
us to conduct our life and
growth
more effectively in this life
time. There is absolutely
nothing
wrong with bringing some joy
and pleasure to yourself at
any
private time you wished to. By
doing so, you will help bring
awareness to yourself about
your self and your sexual
needs and
desires when you are sharing
yourself with your partner
when you
are in a relationship.
Second, sex is a shared act.
So, we can go as far as we can
with
identifying our own sexuality.
However, this will also bring
us
to the fact that what happens
between two people sexually is
also their own act of privacy,
regardless if it is classed as
being ‘normal’ within our
own belief system. When two
people are
engaged in an act of intimacy
between themselves, we have no
right to judge them and in
reality, their affairs are not
even
our business, therefore, we
shouldn’t care! But why do
we
persist in letting it become
our affair by judging and
criticizing those people? The
answer is very simple, because
we
are border and feel we have
‘no life’ of our own, so
we use
other people’s affairs to
fulfill that boredom and need
to
gossip. Let’s see! Why
should it be that Britney
Spears, for
example, sex life is so
important to everyone? Does
she owe us
anything that she must make
her private life public to the
whole
world, just because she is a
well known singer? Why on
earth do
we feel the need to learn
about her sexual preference?
She can
sing and dance and entertain
us very nicely, is that not
enough
to keep us occupied? Why we
don’t question President
Bush about
his sexual preference? How
about the reporters who are
bringing
us the juice about Britney’s
sexual habits? How comfortable
are
they in telling us about their
own sexual habits? How about
you,
the reader? Are you open to
telling us about your sexual
habits?
Or you just want to hear
someone else’s and judge
them according
to what you hear, regardless
if the story is true or not?
What
makes the famous people’s
gossip, particularly their
sexuality,
so important to us? Aren’t
they just like you and I,
being human
souls, regardless of if they
are famous or not? Sex is a
shared
act between where, in the
majority of times, takes place
between
two people and it is not the
business of yours or mine to
judge
that. Unless of course you are
ready and prepared to ‘spill
your
guts’ and talk about
yourself for a change!
Third, sex is an
energy-centered act. More and
more often these
days we are seeing so many
different sex websites and the
popularity of these sites is
reaching an all time high!
This is
because our understanding of
sex and sexuality is all
wrong! It
is not only an act in itself
between two people. It is not
just
for reproduction. Ideally sex
it should more open that
people
should be at ease to talk
about and express their own
feelings
rather than suppressing them.
Sex is individual, shared
between
two people and it is also the
act of opening our sexual
energy.
In reality sex is a major
opening for us to learn more
about
ourselves on different levels.
Sex is an energy-centered act
and what I mean by this is,
when
two souls become involved a
relationship of growth
together, sex
becomes the main source of
exchanging their energy with
each
other. To attain that level of
energy exchange to happen at a
soul level it requires both
people involved in the
relationship
to accept that growth. It
cannot work with input from
only one
of the couple. Sexual energy
is about dropping all your
reservations, dropping all
ideology, dropping all your
walls and
basically opening all of your
gates for your partner. It is
about seeing yourself as the
image of your partner’s eye
when
two souls are joined in their
sexual action and performance
together. You are the image of
your partner and it is through
that image you grow.
In order to create an
energetically established
relationship you
must be in the right
relationships with the right
partner in the
first place. How many of us
today are with the right
partner and
for the right reasons? How
many of us are strong and wise
enough
that they do not allow their
past experiences to interfere
in
their new ones? How many of us
have the courage to accept and
allow a new experience to take
place in their lives with a
new
partner they have met? How
many of us openly accept our
partner
for being the way they are and
not the way in which we want
them
be? How many of us are willing
to take that extra plunge into
some unknown and unfamiliar
territory?
Our universe consists of an
abundance of energies of which
are
in existence all around us.
These energies exist as the
people
we meet in our daily routines,
the objects we touch to our
state
of mind and well being. Sexual
energy is connected to the
vastness of energy which is
available for our access and
at our
own disposal. Why don’t we
make full use of these
energies? The
answer is very simple! Again,
it is our narrow minded,
‘human’
way of thinking. How many of
us believe that if things in
this
world cannot be proven by
science, then it means they do
not
exist? How many of us believe
and react to new opinions or
observations “That’s not
the way I learned from my
religious
teachings!” How many of us
believe that our parents
dismissed
such theories on the
conclusion that they do not
fit within the
traditions and family belief
systems and perhaps they were
concerned with what other
people would SAY about them if
they
thought that way.
Learn how to open your gates
and drop your human shield
without
any creating expectations of
your partner for what they
will do
or don’t do for or to YOU.
Do not bring any of your old
baggage
into new relationships. It is
not the same energy. This is
not
the same person you are
involved with now. Until you
learn how
to do this, you will risk
running into the same patterns
of your
old relationship situations.
Learn to let go, forgive
yourself,
others and move in your life.
How successfully we can build
our sexual energy in our
relationships reflects how
much we are willing to try our
best
to bring comfort to our
partner. This requires
cooperation
between both partners without
one being left behind. The
“ME,
ME, ME…” style of attitude
will defeat the purpose of
this
intention and we will always
find ourselves in stagnation
until
we learn the relationship is
not all about us. We are or at
least ‘should be’ the
reflection of ourselves in our
partner.
The more we invest in our
partner, the more we will see
that
investment being returned to
us, but multiplied. Do not
allow
fear to interfere for there is
no place for it here. When you
invest fully in your partner
and know you have done your
best to
do so, you should never be
hurt moving on after the time
comes
for your relationship to end.
You will never feel regret or
guilt by saying “what if I
did this or that?” There is
no “what
if?” in our life. Only, when
you know you have invested
your
best into making it work,
there is only “I did my best
to make
the best I could’ve of out
my experience in that
relationship”
and with that you will be able
to move on in peace into a new
relationship experience. When
one partner is not ready to
invest
there is nothing you can do.
However, if you see that they
are
trying to do their best to
make things work, then help,
but
without abusing or taking
advantage of them.
So, on a final note, invest in
your relationships, invest in
exploring your sexuality and
invest in your growth because
in
the end it is all about you!
You are always the winner at
the
end. Just think of that for a
moment!
About the author:
At the age of eight Joseph
discovered his clairvoyance.
Joseph
is natural medium presently
teaching meditation,
numerology and
healing. Joseph started the
‘Free Spirit Centre’
website at
http://www.freespiritcentre.info.
A community web based centre
dedicated to personal growth,
soul growth, eating disorders,
relationships, healing and
human issues.
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