Dating affects us all at
some time or another.
For many it happens
during the teenage years
and twenties, before
meeting the love of
their life and settling
down to wedded bliss for
the rest of their
naturals.
For more and more of us
however dating revisits
later in life, at a time
when we're probably
feeling pretty
vulnerable, for all
kinds of reasons.
Mixed emotions surface
as a result of divorce -
have I still got 'it',
am I too
fat/thin/wrinkled/boring/uncool...
It may be that after a
serious of disastrous
relationships we start
to wonder if there
really is something
wrong with us as people
and maybe we are simply
meant to be single.
The good news is that it
really is possible to
turn things around,
sometimes by changing a
few basic rules or
behaviours so that
others can see the
fantastic personality
lurking within.
These tips aren't
written in stone but
form solid guidelines
for those scaredy cats
who haven't dated for a
while. They also work
for those who have an
inkling they may be
getting it wrong.
- Yes, you will have to
kiss a number of frogs
or frogesses before you
meet someone you really
like. So don't take
dating too seriously and
be prepared for let
downs.
- Be the best you can
be. Get the weight off,
keep your hair nice,
find a good dentist,
spend time on your
appearance. It does
sound superficial, but
if you don't appear to
like yourself, no one
else is going to. Plus,
if you're feeling good,
you'll be more confident
with others.
- Talking of being the
best, have you checked
out your wardrobe
recently? If you met you
what would you think?
- Practice being with
people. Try to go to as
many social functions as
you can fit in and
simply talk to others,
without expecting
romance, even if just
for a minute or so.
People love to talk
about themselves, and
with practice you'll
develop easy ways of
getting both men and
women into conversation.
- Don't waste time on
dates with people who
make you feel unsettled
or anxious, or
uncomfortable about
being yourself. All that
will happen is that
you'll start thinking
there's something wrong
with YOU. Ditch them -
nicely of course.
- Take time off from
looking for dates and
develop your interests,
so you'll have stuff to
talk about when you do
meet someone nice.
- Sometimes it becomes
clear after a while that
your date will make a
much better friend than
partner. If that's the
case, be honest but do
try to stay in touch.
Thay way your social
life will expand into
areas you may not have
expected.
- Don't be shy of
introduction agencies.
It's much more
acceptable to meet
people this way these
days, and there are
agencies to suit people
from all walks of life.
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