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10 Red Flags in Dating
Relationships
Terri Arnold, MS
(Spicy Grandma)
When starting a new
relationship, many women (and
men as well)
tend to overlook some
behaviors in their new partner
that do not
bode well for the future.
Then, down the road, comes the
exclamation ‘If I had only
known...’. As a
Psychotherapist who
has worked with mostly women
and a few men in the field of
Domestic Violence, during
counseling sessions we can
always
trace back unpleasant and also
dangerous character traits to
the
very start of the
relationship.
Here are some ‘Red Flags’
to watch out for in a new
partner.
1)He makes decisions about
where to go with little or no
input
from you.
2)He belittles your opinion
when the two of you are alone
and
may call you names.
3)He makes disparaging remarks
about you in front of others
and
may talk about you as if you
were not there.
4)He may be rough during
love-making and make you
engage in acts
you do not like.
5)He does not want to spend
time with your friends or
family and
insists you socialize with his
people.
6)He will not acknowledge your
areas of expertise and may put
down what you do in the
workplace - ignore any of your
accomplishments.
7)He may openly flirt with
other women and then accuse
you of
being jealous when you object.
8)He gets angry and loses his
temper over trivialities.
Stays
angry for a long time and
attempts to blame all
arguments on you.
9)May hit walls when angry.
10)One of the main factors is
that he comes on very strong
in
the beginning of your
relationship - sweeps you off
your feet -
and wants an exclusive
relationship too quickly. Many
women feel
flattered at the intensity of
the man’s seeming need for
an
immediate connection and
consequently overlook the
inappropriateness of it.
*This should not be confused
with ‘love at first sight’
where
one or both parties feel an
instant connection - without
any of
the aforementioned behaviors.*
There are many other factors
that could be listed - but if
the
man in your life begins
displaying the above qualities
- realize
it will not get better, only
worse. He will likely be
unwilling
to discuss his emotions openly
and feel that women are the
inferior sex.
If this describes your man,
run - do not walk - out of his
life.
The next step will likely be
physical abuse.
About the author:
Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy
Grandma) has been a
Psychotherapist for
over twenty years. She has
owned and operated a brick and
mortar
dating service and has also
helped abused women thru
individual
and group counseling to
improve their self esteem,
leave their
abusive relationships and lead
more fulfilling lives. Terri
invites you to visit her
popular personalized and
informative
50+ dating community at
http://www.spicy-senior-singles.com.
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