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Ten Ways to Get Yourself Ready
for Dating
By
Jane Johnson
1)
So what’s it gonna be?
Decide
on your attitude – a
positive attitude can make all
the difference. If you view
dating or finding your
soul-mate as a nagging problem
that has yet to be resolved
– you effectively close down
access for increased
possibilities to come in. By
adopting an attitude of
optimism you create space for
broader thinking and infinite
possibilities.
2)
What I really want is…
What
is your primary aim for dating
or in attracting a soul-mate?
Define with clarity what your
purpose is. Clarity is what
brings balance between hope
and fear. List 50 qualities
you most want in a long-term
relationship. Check-mark those
qualities that are
non-negotiable.
3)
What’s important?
Get
clear about your personal
values. What is most important
to you about how you live your
life? Your values are your
personal operating system. Use
them as your decision making
tool – which includes
evaluating if a relationship
is right for you or not.
4)
Yep – that’s me!
What
makes you happy? What lights
you up? What is the passion
that fuels your dreams? What
are your strengths? What are
your needs? Know yourself
better than you know anyone
else. When you can easily and
confidently talk about “who
you are” you become a magnet
for what you want most AND
people will help you get it
– because you have told
them! You know that feeling of
satisfaction when you help
someone get what they want?
Well others want to help you
too! The clearer you are about
what you want – the more
others understand and can help
you get it.
5)
Ahhhhh…extreme self-care –
it’s a wonderful thing!
Take
care of you first! Do things
that make you happy and make
you feel good. Create
reserves! When you are happy
and healthy you have more to
share with others.
6)
Thank you for being my friend.
Get
positive support. Assemble a
group of amazing friends who
want the best for you and will
be there to remind you how
amazing you are. Having
supportive, positive people in
your life is crucial to
calling forth the best in you.
7)
Who’s that and what are they
saying?
Others
will be your mirror. Try to be
conscious of your feelings and
when you feel a “charge”.
If you are happy and having
great fun – look for the
mirror that person is holding
up – the reflection is
likely those qualities about
yourself that you enjoy most.
Likewise, if you are not happy
with the reflection and feel a
negative charge, look for the
mirror. How do those qualities
show up in you? Awareness
creates choice.
8)
Bye, Bye Excess Baggage
Let
go of the past. Be emotionally
available for a healthy, happy
relationship to come into your
life. If you are holding on to
past hurts or past
relationships that you wished
you’d handled differently
– let them go. They are
over. You have a chance to
start anew and get exactly
what you really desire.
9)
You are so fascinating!
You
had a life before you started
dating, which may even be what
attracted your mate to you.
Don’t lose yourself in a new
relationship and forget about
your friends and all the
things you enjoy doing. Keep
doing things that interest you
and find things you enjoy
doing as a couple.
10)
So that’s what that was
about…
Be
in relationship learning mode
at all times. What patterns of
behavior show up in your
relationships? Examine all
that didn’t work and look
for new ways to behave your
way to healthy, happy
relationships.
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About
The Author
This
piece was originally
submitted by Jane
Johnson, a certified
life coach who has
experienced the world
of internet dating.
After a nearly 20 year
hiatus from dating,
she immersed herself
in the activity. The
following are tips
from her observations,
interviews and
personal experiences.
You can reach her at www.doingcoolstuff.com
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