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Writing
Powerful Profiles
by
Rod Moore
So
they are reading your profile,
now what?
In
our last article we looked at
how you can stand out from the
crowd in the on-line dating
sites. We talked about the
fact that there are many
profiles to compete with and
you need to look for ways to
set you apart from the rest.
The importance of using a
photo and appealing to
people’s visual senses was
discussed, selection of the
right nickname, and finally
how to word your introduction
to ensure that more people
look at your profile.
So
now you have at least got
their attention and they have
clicked through to your
profile. Where to from there?
The wording of your profile is
what will make the difference
as to whether people will
contact you or not. A poorly
written profile will mean very
few responses, where as a well
worded and structured profile
will ensure a higher response.
If
you are serious about meeting
people on-line then it is
worthwhile taking the time to
craft a well written
profile….and the words you
use will make all the
difference!
Three
things you must do with your
profile.
There
are a number of things you can
do to make people respond to
your profile in a more
favorable way. Remember that
your goal is to motivate as
many people as possible to
contact you. So our objective
here is to write a profile
that has broad appeal.
So
what are the most effective
things you can do to appeal to
the most amount of people?
Well here are three key things
you can do:
1.
Write
in detail about you
The
first key to writing a
powerful profile is to write
in a lot of detail about you.
Your profile should be more
than 250 words and should
provide the reader with as
much information about you as
possible.
There
is a tendency for people to
write brief profiles revealing
very little information about
them selves. More than half of
the profiles listed in any
on-line dating site are way to
brief. The problem with short
profiles is that it gives
those reading your profile
very little information,
making it harder for them to
respond to your profile in a
positive way.
Lets
think about it for a moment.
If you know very little about
a person, how easy is it to
establish some common ground
with them? How comfortable
would you feel approaching or
talking with someone who you
know little about? Your right,
you probably wouldn’t feel
at all comfortable.
On-line
dating is no different. The
more people know about you,
the more comfortable they will
feel in contacting you, or
initiating conversation with
you. So if you want to get a
greater response to your
profile, and begin meeting
more singles today then make
sure you write a detailed
profile.
How
long should the profile be, I
can hear you ask? Well in our
experience, the longer your
profile is the higher the
chance of somebody finding
something about you they like,
right? So if that’s true,
does it not logically follow
that the greater the chance of
them contacting you? We think
so, but don’t take our word
for it. Go back and re-write
your profile so that it is in
excess of 250 words. Use as
much space as the on-line
dating service will allow you.
2.
Write
only the wonderful things
Now
if you are going to write a
powerful profile then make
sure that you only write the
things about you that are
wonderful. Only write the
things that will appeal to
other singles. Remember,
it’s all about making
yourself as appealing to
others as you possibly can. So
fill your profile with all the
reasons for your prospective
partner to be interested in
you.
Do
not use your profile to
explain to the world all the
reasons why you don’t feel
good about yourself. Never
talk in a negative way about
yourself. If you can’t
convey a positive message
about yourself, how do you
expect to attract any interest
from any one. Take great care
not to allow a poor self-image
or low self-esteem to shine
through in your profile. Many
people do this and then wonder
why they get few, or no
responses.
Now
most people have trouble
writing about themselves in a
positive manner. If this is
the case with you, then speak
to your best friend or the
person you are closest to in
the world and ask them ‘what
are five things about me you
really like?’. Now if they
can’t come up with five
things then you may be in
trouble.
Once
you have identified five
things about you that you
thing are positive and
interesting, then simply write
a paragraph about those five
things. For example, if you
love to travel then write a
paragraph of your recent
overseas trip, tell the story
of how you went shopping in
Sicily. That way those reading
your profile at least have the
opportunity to connect with
something about you.
If
your profile is negative and
expresses a low self-esteem
then no one will want to know
you. You will get few
responses and probably give up
on the idea of meeting someone
on-line. If you do get
responses it will only be from
those who feel even worse
about themselves than you do.
So
make your profile positive and
full of wonderful things about
you!
3.
Your
profile is not a wish list
Often
we see people using their
profile as a wish list for
what they want in a
prospective partner. Even
worse are those who go to
great lengths to describe what
they don’t want in a person.
The
more you use your profile in
this manner the poorer your
responses will be. Why? By
describing what you do or
don’t want in a prospective
partner you are giving people
a reason not to contact you.
In effect people will
eliminate themselves and you
will never even know.
Lets
look at it another way.
Meeting people over the
Internet is new to most of us.
None of us want to have bad
experiences in doing so. More
fundamentally though, we all
fear rejection. We will do
just about anything to avoid
being rejected by the opposite
sex. So much so that a lot of
singles never even make an
effort to meet any one because
they fear the pain of
rejection. The pain of
rejection for a lot of people
is greater than the pain of
being single.
So
with this in mind, look back
at your profile and consider
everything you have written.
Does your profile have a list
of mandatory requirements that
you simply must have, or not
have in a partner? If so then
you may be missing out on lots
more people contacting you
which would be a shame. This
list of must haves, or not
haves, are what most people
look for as reasons not to
initiate contact with you.
Take
a fresh approach and remove
any requirements that you may
have from your profile. You
can always filter people later
on based on your requirements
when you start to get a lot of
responses. But you will never
get many responses if you give
people to many reasons not to
contact you.
So
there you have the keys to
writing powerful profiles.
Write a detailed positive
profile that has broad appeal,
provides lots of reasons for
people to contact you, and
very few reasons for them not
to. Its important that you go
back over your profile and
spend a great deal of time
with perfecting it. After all
its your profile in 90% of
cases that will persuade
people to contact you.
Never
underestimate the power of
words in your profile. Look
for unique words that people
don’t use frequently in the
passing of daily conversation.
The only tool you have to work
with in crafting inspiring
profiles is words. Your
choice, usage and mastery of
words will differentiate you
from the multitude of singles
on-line today with profiles.
Give
careful consideration to the
words you use. By following
the principles in this article
you will create powerful
profiles that demand a
response from your prospective
future partner.
Rod
Moore
is an expert on dating &
meeting people on-line. He is
the founder and Managing
Director of Global Singles, a
social club for like minded
singles, and the Dating
Success web site. Rod will
soon be holding a series of
seminars and workshops
providing singles with new
skills and ideas on dating. He
is in the process of writing
his first book ‘Strategies
for Successful Dating’. He
can be contacted at info@datingsuccess.info
or visit his web sites at:
http://www.globalsingles.info
, http://www.datingsuccess.info
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