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When Trying to Pick up Women, Always
Work Alone
By Mike Pilinski
Maybe there's something to be
said for going out with your
buddies to work the bars and
pick up women, but notice how
rarely it ever actually seems
to succeed? Girls go to the
clubs
in groups for safety and to
make it difficult for all but
the
most aggressive males to pluck
them away from their circle of
friends and make a powerful
first impression. But it
puzzles me
as to why GUYS feel they need
to run in packs the same way.
Do you draw confidence from
your male comrades in a club
situation? Does the
competitive spirit make you
better? Or are
you even MORE afraid to take a
chance with a critical
audience
of snickering baboons watching
your every move (AND screw
up)?
You probably don't know what
the hell you're doing when it
comes
to approaching women TO BEGIN
WITH... will somehow
demonstrating
this humiliating deficiency of
your male skills in front of
your
goofball buddies make it any
better?
Understand this: most of your
genuine chances to pick up
women
won't ever happen when you're
out with the boys in a bar --
there are far too many
distractions and way too much
competition
for her attention. This is a
situation where no one but the
most
VISUALLY OBVIOUS DOMINANT MALE
among the crowd has any
advantage. Most women in this
'party mode' are only there to
drink and dance and act nutty
anyway. Only the most top dog
male
in the joint has any prospect
of breaking through this goofy
‘fun trance' and
getting a rise from his
suggestive
behavior. You? You're just the
sort of invisible shmuck she
completely ignores; nothing
but background clutter. The
same way
that you ignore all the fat
chicks in the crowd and focus
in on
only the hottest looking
babes. Right?
Your 'modus operandi' has to
be completely different.
In order to keep a safety zone
around your fragile ego, a
complex NON-verbal interplay
must occur before you can ever
speak any words to her with
confidence. This takes time
and
requires a situation where the
two of you can focus at least
some *attention* on one
another without having the
trance broken
by other people around you
(preferably strangers, and not
engaged in doing anything
particularly important i.e.,
like
library readers for instance).
The very same girl that would
immediately brush you off in a
bar can be wide open to your
advances in AN ENTIRELY
DIFFERENT SITUATION -- one
where you can
monopolize her attention.
That's why you must always
keep your
antennae out and be looking
for opportunities in the most
unlikely of situations!
In any case, the absolute
WORSE situation for trying to
meet
women happens at some wild
event where her guard is up
like a
silver cross to ward off all
the drunken losers suddenly
"full"
of liquid courage (low status
males). You'll do *much
better*
when you learn how to
establish a bit of playful,
unspoken
communication in places where
her guard is DOWN and you have
a
chance to disarm her with your
male presence and charm. It's
really not all that difficult
once you understand that what
she
needs to see from you is just
one little sign of Dominant
Male
behavior.
The good news... you can
easily learn how to *fake* the
most key
HSM (High Status Male)
attitudes until they become
second nature!
Seductions are a lot like
*sporting contests* in that
you never
know what unforeseen twists
and turns may happen on your
way to
victory. You can't allow
yourself to be handcuffed by
the need
to keep looking over your
shoulder to make sure you're
not doing
anything that will make you
the butt of jokes and mockery
from
your "crowd" for
weeks to come. A lot of times,
you'll have to
scrap the game plan and make
changes to your technique on
the
fly -- and these adjustments
don't always fit the image of
what
your leering buddies probably
think is cool.
Look, don't play the loser's
game of going out to work the
clubs
with your "gang".
Not when you're serious about
hunting for
women, anyway. Bad experiences
will only sap your confidence
and
make it more difficult than
ever to effectively play the
"real"
game... the one where you try
to win the desire of a
beautiful
woman.
You know... the ONLY game that
actually matters.
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About the author:
Mike Pilinski is the author of
"Without
Embarrassment", a new
e-book designed to show men
how to develop unique
psychological
defenses to protect themselves
from ever having to fear being
rejected again. Visit http://www.highstatusmale.com
and pick up
a FREE copy of the 25 page
Mini-Course "The Three
Keys to
Seducing Any Woman"
**Official Author's Website**
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