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How
to Write an Online Personal Ad
to Attract a Great Match
Online
personal ads are a great way
to meet a lot of interesting
people quickly. Personal ads
are also a great way to get
over a fear many singles
struggle with - that there are
not enough available singles
of the opposite sex out there.
Once you get into the online
personal ad game and connect
with hundreds of other singles
looking for a relationship,
that fear disappears.
It's
easy enough to write an ad
that will get people to either
contact you or respond to your
hello. In fact, this is so
easy that you could end up
with way too many responses
and way too many people who
are not suited for you.
If
what you really want is to get
connected with people who are
well suited for you, with whom
you are a great match, then
consider the following tips
for writing an online personal
ad.
- Know
what qualities you are
looking for in a partner
and ask for them in your
ad.
Think about what is really
important to you in a
partner. These are the
same qualities you find
really important in
friends.
- Do
not list qualities you do
not want in a partner.
Ads listing unwelcome
qualities sound negative
and often angry and turn
people off. You can screen
people for qualities you
do not want once you speak
to or correspond with
them.
- Know
what qualities you bring
to the relationship and
list them in your ad.
Think about what makes
you, you. These are the
same qualities your
friends find appealing
about you.
- Mention
any hobby, passion or
activity that occupies a
large amount of your time.
If there is something you
either love to do or spend
a lot of time doing,
mention it in a
description of yourself.
It is obviously important
to you and part of what
defines who you are.
- Be
honest about who you are,
and what you want and do
not play games.
If you are afraid to write
an ad that is too personal
for fear of attracting no
one, see if you can try it
anyway. The more honest
you are, the more likely
you are to attract whom
you actually want.
- Refrain
from making your ad to
sexual, unless you are
looking for sexual
liaisons only.
If you are looking for a
relationship and not just
sex, leave the sex out and
tone down the physical
descriptions in your ad.
Otherwise you will be
attracting people who are
more interested in sex
than in a relationship.
- Know
what kind of a
relationship you want and
list some of the
highlights in your ad.
Whether you want a
relationship with lots of
laughter and fun, or one
where deep conversations
last into the night, etc.,
put some of this in your
ad.
- Write
the ad in your
conversational style.
Refrain from using
dazzling words or a
lighthearted tone, unless
that is your natural
inclination. Write the ad
in a style that most
naturally resembles your
spoken word, not in a
style in which you think
you should write.
- Get
your closest friends to
read your ad to determine
whether it describes you
and the
relationship/partner you
are looking for.
Our friends often know us
better than we know
ourselves - trust their
opinion if they tell you
to rewrite your ad. You
are more likely to end up
attracting people you feel
good dating.
- Go
slow when people show
interest.
When someone answers your
ad and sounds like the
kind of person you are
looking for, still take
time to get to know him or
her. You don't really know
someone until you spend a
significant amount of time
together in person.
"(c) Rinatta Paries,
1998-2002. Do you know how to
attract your ideal mate? Do
you know how to build a
fulfilling relationship, or
how to reinvent yours to meet
your needs? Relationship Coach
Rinatta Paries can teach you
the skills and techniques to
attract and sustain long-term,
healthy partnerships. Visit
www.WhatItTakes.com where
you'll find quizzes, classes,
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