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Mutual Masturbation
By
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Okay so most of us know how to
masturbate alone and probably
do
so quite often when the need
arises, but we can also use
masturbation as a couple to
add a little variety to our
sexual
smorgasbord and to spice
things up a bit.
Oh yeah, seeing my lover on
his knees on the bed stroking
his
shaft with the look of
exquisite pleasure on his face
is one of
the most erotic images for me,
and for many men, seeing their
woman touch herself and bring
herself to ecstasy is
extremely arousing.
So masturbating for each other
can be a great addition to our
sexual repertoire. No only is
it stimulating, but it is also
a
magnificent way for us to
learn how to touch our lover.
We can
observe where, when and how
they touch themselves, taking
note
of intensity and speed and we
can learn how to satisfy them
better by adopting their
methods when we masturbate
them.
For example: we can learn does
our lover like her clitoris
stimulated through the hood or
does she need it exposed or we
can learn does our lover like
to be stroked hard or gentle.
We can take turns being the
voyeur and the exhibitionist.
If one
partner enjoys mutual
masturbation and the other
feels a little
shy, then you could try making
a game out of it where the not
so
shy one can try to catch the
shy one without their knowing
and
spy on them while they
masturbate. This way the shy
one can be
uninhibited and the not so shy
one can get their arousal. You
could have the ending be that
you both climax alone during
the
act of the game or you could
set it up so it ends with
intercourse.
As you practice masturbating
for each other it will help
bring
down inhibitions and you can
grow closer together.
Masturbating for each other
can be used as an alternative
to
intercourse if we are not in
the mood or it can be a part
of
foreplay. It is a great form
of sex if we are in a new
relationship and have not
moved full steam ahead yet. It
can
also be used if one partner is
too tired for intercourse, and
yet wants to participate in
satisfying their partner.
We can also masturbate each
other. Taking what we have
learned
by observing our partner and
applying it. We can take turns
with
all the attention focused on
one partner at a time until
they
climax or it can be
simultaneous. It can be very
arousing to
watch our partner stimulate us
manually as we stimulate them,
as
both partners can benefit from
viewing and being viewed. We
can
be the voyeur and the
exhibitionist at the same
time.
We can add toys to the
scenario and try a variety of
different
positions and locations as
well. Perhaps a camera or
video
camera would be fun.
Ahhh, the possibilities are
immense. Be creative,
adventurous
and playful.
About the author:
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. is a
writer, educator, advisor and
coach
specializing in sexual
intimacy, erotic communication
and
keeping the fire burning in
your relationship. A FREE E-zine
packed full of advice, tips
and erotic stories to keep the
sizzle in your relationship
can be found ather website.
Sex and
The Soul http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul
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