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Men: When it comes to the
Dating Game, are you Playing
with Scared Money?
By
Mike Pilinski
I have a friend who's a big
time gambler -- horses and
sports
book mostly, but he'll take a
flyer out to a casino and burn
up
a crap table once in a while.
His playful lifestyle has
given
him a unique view of reality.
Here's what he told me about
betting and risking: He said
that the absolute worse way to
approach any game of chance
was to go in with a pre-set
maximum
limit in your mind of just how
much money you are willing to
lose.
"I'm only gonna bet $50
-- if I lose it, forget it...
I'm done.
This way I can only lose a
maximum of $50! Smart guy, eh?
That's
not so bad, right?..."
Notice how much energy is
expended deciding how best to
protect
your money -- while little
consideration is given to
doing
whatever it takes to actually
WIN? This is a classic loser's
mentality, not the "smart
guy" style of play. Why?
Because it's
an overriding play 'strategy'
(and I use this term loosely)
that's based upon the
assumption that you will
probably LOSE no
matter how events ultimately
unfold. There is NO
consideration
given as to how you're going
to win -- because in the
deepest
recesses of your mind you do
not accept that winning is
really
possible. Oh sure you might've
chalked up the rare victory
here
and there along the way, but
in the long run you will
always
somehow end up the loser (you
think). So the "Big
Overriding
Idea" then becomes to
protect yourself against any
serious
losses.
My buddy calls this Playing
with "Scared Money".
And he has
another saying too...
SCARED MONEY ALWAYS LOSES!
Timidly, you lay down your bet
and the House sweeps it away.
Bye bye, jackass. See ya again
when you have another $50
bucks
for me to cleave off your
wallet. It never fails. There
is just
no way to play the game of
life in a half-assed
protective
manner and ever make any real
progress. The
"I'm-not-going-
to-take-any-risks"
approach to life is a formula
for abject
failure. Plain and
simple. Nature seems to abhor
it, and
ensures that all its
practitioners are gleefully
punished with
unending failure and
frustration.
The *successful* gambler -- by
contrast -- always remains
focused on WINNING, and keeps
punching through his losses
with a
bulldog determination until he
gets there. The way my friend
describes the process must
seem terrifying to the risk
adverse... if you lose $50,
you bet $100 next time. Lose
that,
and now you bet $200. Next
time, $400. The idea is to
keep
doubling your bet so that when
you finally DO win it will
more
than cover your previous
losses. Yikes!
You see, the confident, ballsy
gambler has to keep pushing
harder and harder into his
losing streak with steely
nerves,
knowing that a WIN for him is
out there eventually. His only
fear is that he goes
completely bankrupt before
reaching it. But
if he does bust out, well...
...there's always next time!
Lots of guys approach the game
of love and romance in a
similar
fashion to the timid gambler.
Their "Big Overriding
Idea" is to
protect their EGO (their
"bet") at all costs
-- and that cost
usually turns out to be
complete failure to meet
anyone! Instead
of focusing on the importance
of WINNING and being
successful,
they are concerned instead on
"not losing" and
keeping their
self- esteem intact.
But it's exactly this kind of
timid approach that turns
women
OFF and insures your failure
with them. Women can smell
your
fear -- it's as unmistakable
as an open sewer! And it
screams:
Low Status Male.
Bottom Line: when it comes to
scoring with women, like
gambling, you will lose far
more often than you win. THIS
IS HOW
THE DAMN GAME IS DESIGNED!!!
Understand something here: the
*losses* are the payment for
the win -- NOT the
"wager" that you
make with your self-esteem. I
repeat... you pay for your
future
winnings with the losses, not
with the risk to your ego that
you
feel you're taking. Keep this
in mind because, if you're
losing
on a regular basis with women,
it could be that by protecting
your most valuable asset (your
ego) you're preventing
yourself
from laying down a bet with
the REAL currency that the
Game
demands... i.e., a string of
setup losses.
You see, the guy playing with
scared money doesn't
understand
that the gamblers' thrill of
winning far exceeds the agony
of
the losses it took to get
there. Dominant males win at
the game
of seduction because they
NEVER play with Scared
Money...
And neither should you!
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About the author:
Mike Pilinski is the author of
"Without
Embarrassment", a new
e-book designed to show men
how to develop unique
psychological
defenses to protect themselves
from ever having to fear being
rejected again. Visit http://www.highstatusmale.com
and pick up
a FREE copy of the 25 page
Mini-Course "The Three
Keys to
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