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I
Saw Him Masturbating
Q: Recently I saw my boyfriend
masturbating to pornography
while
he was in the bathtub. He had
no idea that I saw him and now
I'm
worried that he prefers
pornography to me. Do you
think I should say
something to him about this?
A: There is no reason for you
to "talk" to your
boyfriend about what
you saw. It's common for men
to use fantasy, of various
kinds, for
sexually stimulation during
masturbation. A pornographic
magazine
is one form of fantasy. Some
men prefer reading erotic
stories, while
others enjoy watching X-rated
movies. Regardless of the
type, the
purpose is usually the same-to
relieve sexual tension.
The act of solo-sex meets
certain needs that partner-sex
doesn't-it's
a sexual experience when
performance is not an issue.
Instead, it is a
time for a man to release
sexual tension without having
to be a good
lover to anyone else but
himself. So, don't give it a
second thought,
this, in no way, will decrease
his sexual interest in you. If
it does, then
you have something to be
concerned about.
Nancy Fagan, M.S.,
best-selling author of
"The Complete
Idiot's Guide to Romance"
and "Desirable Men: How
to Find
Them" has appeared on
several hundred radio and
television
shows including Ricki Lake,
Men are from Mars/Women are
from Venus, ABC News, NBC
News, CBS News, The Berman
&
Berman Show, FOX News. She has
been featured in most major
newspaper in the United States
and worldwide as well as
regularly mentioned in the
nation's top magazines such as
Ladies' Home Journal
("Can this Marriage be
Saved?"),
Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's
Health, Bride's, Seventeen,
Women's Day, Family Circle,
Women's Own, BBW, Complete
Women and dozens of others.
Nancy's Best-Selling Books:
Desirable Men: How to Find
Them
http://www.thedatingdoctor.com/desirable.htm
The Idiot's Guide to Romance
http://www.thedatingdoctor.com/idiotsbook.htm
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