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Ten
Steps to Attract Your Ideal
Relationship, Part 2
Today
you'll learn the final five
steps. You don't have to take
these steps. You are welcome
to read them once and forget
about them; let them be
another lost piece of
information.
However,
as you read over these steps
keep in mind that everyone who
has created a successful,
loving relationship has taken
them. For some people these
steps are intuitive, taken
automatically. For most of us
they need to be deliberately
taken.
6.
Redefine Socializing
The sixth step in being able
to attract and create your
ideal relationship is
redefining why and how you
socialize. Chances are you
have participated in many
social situations simply as
a way to meet available
partners. And chances are
that you were either not
very successful, or that the
relationships formed this
way crumbled quickly.
My
advice may seem to be a
paradox; if you want to meet
your ideal partner, stop
looking for her or him.
Socialize as a way to create
a rich, satisfying life and
as a way to create a
supportive, vibrant
community. Be social to
enhance your life and not to
look for a partner. When you
life works and you are
happy, the right partner
will be drawn to you.
7.
Develop a Life Vision
Focus on creating the kind
of life you want. Your ideal
partner is just around the
corner of your ideal life.
What
is your ideal life? Where do
you want to live? What do
you want to do for a living?
How much money do you want
to make? What do you want to
contribute to the world?
The
key to creating your ideal
life is to make yourself
happy now and to set
yourself up to be happy in
the future, regardless of
whether or not you are in a
relationship.
8.
Develop New Relationship
Patterns
In order to attract your
ideal relationship, you need
to develop new relationship
patterns to replace your old
ineffective patterns.
The
essence of your new
relationship patterns is
your ability to do the
following six things:
- See
people for who they are
and not for who you want
them to be or who you
are afraid they are.
- Recognize
your attraction to
people, understand why
you are attracted to
them and have a choice
in what you will do
about it.
- Know
what you need and be
able to assess if a
potential partner is
able and willing to meet
your needs.
- Know
and respect your
boundaries and
communicate when they
are crossed or
endangered.
- Be
clear about your
definition of an ideal
relationship and be able
to assess if a potential
partner has the capacity
to co-create that kind
of relationship with
you.
- Have
a rich and satisfying
social life, one where
your needs for
companionship are well
met.
9.
Strengthen Faith
The ninth step in being able
to attract and create your
ideal relationship is
strengthening your faith --
your relationship with the
universal source.
It
is guaranteed that at one
point or another in this
process of attracting your
ideal relationship you will
feel as if everything you
have done has produced
absolutely no results. Faith
will be the one thing you
will have to count on.
Having
faith will keep you from
going back to old behaviors
in an effort to speed up
results.
How
do you strengthen faith and
build a relationship with
the universal source? Each
person's path is his or her
own. Find yours.
10.
Develop a New Set of Dating
Behaviors
The final step toward
attracting and creating your
ideal relationship is about
learning how to begin a
relationship once you have
attracted your ideal
partner.
How
you and your partner
interact with each other at
the beginning of your
relationship will lay the
foundation for how you
relate to each other for the
duration. It will either
guarantee a lifetime
partnership or a breakup.
The
essence of co-creating a
lifetime partnership is to
move slow and spend quality
time interacting in person.
Phone and email are not the
same. Most importantly,
build a relationship on a
foundation of 100% honesty.
A relationship built on such
a foundation has the
potential to last a
lifetime.
"(c) Rinatta Paries,
1998-2002. Do you know how to
attract your ideal mate? Do
you know how to build a
fulfilling relationship, or
how to reinvent yours to meet
your needs? Relationship Coach
Rinatta Paries can teach you
the skills and techniques to
attract and sustain long-term,
healthy partnerships. Visit
www.WhatItTakes.com where
you'll find quizzes, classes,
advice and a free weekly ezine.
Become a "true love
magnet(tm)!"
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