Recipe
for a Healthy
Relationship
by Alina Ruigrok -
www.love-sessions.com |
First
off, it is important to
ask yourself what you
consider a real
relationship to be. You
need to understand what
your needs and desires
are from another person,
and what you are willing
to give them. This way,
you can see early in
your first dates, if you
wish to continue and
work towards a future
together, and if the
other person feels the
same of course (both
sides count).
Once you have decided to
have an official
relationship, you both
need to remember what
brought the two of you
together in the first
place. For instance,
what attracted you to
each other both
physically and
emotionally? What do you
admire about his or her
personality? This will
help not taking the
other for granted, which
can often happen after
two people have been
together for a long
time. This does not mean
the love is fading, but
it does mean that there
is lack of effort.
People tend to get lazy
after a while, because
they feel comfortable
and safe. This problem
can be solved when both
people are willing to
make the time and
effort.
Everyone is independent
in their own beliefs and
ideas about things, so
never expect a person to
always see things your
way. However, it is
important to have
similar expectations out
of a relationship, if
you wish to avoid
frequent arguments. Look
for things like whether
or not it is important
for the both of you to
see each other everyday,
or have sex often. While
seeing each other on a
daily basis seems
wonderful and healthy to
some people, others may
feel smothered and need
space to have some alone
time. Or if sex is on
the top of your list,
but is not on your
partners, you might want
to consider that, unless
you do not mind waiting
or taking care of
yourself once in a
while…depending on how
long you have to wait!
Patience is one of the
main keys to a healthy
relationship. There are
times when our partner
will not respond in a
way in which is pleasing
to us, but this does not
mean we have to take it
so seriously or
personally. Always slow
down, take a deep breath
and think of reasons why
your partner may be
acting a certain way.
Assuming and jumping to
conclusions is always an
unhealthy step to take
because it shows your
partner that they are
not entitled to act
freely and they feel
attacked, not to mention
it shows that you
automatically assume the
worst of them. Give your
partner some time and
let them know that you
will be there for them
when they are ready to
talk. No matter what the
situation may be,
patience is golden in a
relationship, unless
your partner never wants
to discuss matters with
you (which would mean
you need counseling or
leave the relationship).
Honesty is also at the
top of everyone’s list
when it comes to what
people want out of a
relationship. A person
needs to know that they
can trust their mate
because it builds a zone
of safety and
comfortableness around
them. They need to know
that they can at least
rely on their loving
partner to tell them the
truth, no matter what.
Being human means NOT
being perfect, which
means we will make
mistakes. Now, we should
not let that fact lead
us to making mistakes we
already know are wrong
ahead of time. If your
partner deliberately
makes mistakes or you
knowingly make mistakes,
it shows that you or
your partner lacks
respect and care for the
other. This is unhealthy
for the relationship.
What is healthy however,
is realizing that the
mistake you committed is
a mistake. You or your
partner need to know
that what they did was
wrong and they need to
feel the sympathy for
what they did. Once you
or partner have realized
this, you can then
figure out a way of how
you will confess your
wrong doings to the
other.
Being accepted is a
requirement in all
relationships. No one
desires to be with
someone who judges them
and rejects them for who
they are or certain
traits of their
personalities. That is
the beauty of being
individuals. We are
entitled to our own
decisions, hobbies,
goals, etc. When some
one truly loves you,
they love the whole
package you come in,
which means the physical
you, the emotional you
and the dreams and
hobbies that come along
with you. The person you
choose to be with should
support your dreams and
respect your hobbies.
Kindness and
thoughtfulness are both
equally important in a
healthy relationship.
Your partner needs to be
considerate of your
feelings and treat you
with care and kindness,
as if you were a sweet
delicate rose. He or she
does not need to attend
you like a babysitter,
but should be there for
you when you need him or
her, or when you do not
need them, but just
because you want them.
They should just want to
be with you as well. The
point of a relationship
is not depending on each
other for our self-
health, but being a part
of the others life. You
should be responsible
for your own happiness
and esteem, not your
partner.
So remember, a healthy
relationship is when you
and your partner can be
yourselves, be honest
with each other, be
patient, accept one
another, be kind and
remembering to be
thoughtful. With an open
and caring relationship
like this, your love is
sure to grow and grow
like beautiful trees do,
because they receive the
proper care from the sun
and the rest of nature.
Our partner is our sun
and water, as we are to
them. Together, you can
keep your relationship
happy and healthy.
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Alina Ruigrok is an
independent relationship
expert for http://www.love-sessions.com
helping those in need
for dating,
relationship, marital,
sexual and other
personal advice through
e-sessions.
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| About
the Author |
| Alina
Ruigrok is an
independent relationship
expert for http://www.love-sessions.com
helping those in need of
dating, love,
relationship, marital,
sexual and other
personal advice through
e-sessions.
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