Give
Up to Get Love
by Rinatta Paries |
Many times when people
want to attract their
ideal partner, they
often make a list of
things to do -- action
steps, if you will --
that will help them meet
"the one."
They add new activities
into their routine, join
dating services, write
singles ads. They may
start an exercise
program or buy new
clothes in an effort to
look better. They let
their friends know
they're "in the
market."
Seldom do people think
of giving up something
as a way to attract Mr.
or Ms. Right. Well, this
is not entirely true.
People may give up such
things as smoking or
overeating. But the kind
of "giving-up"
I'm referring to is
about your beliefs,
attitudes and feelings.
Giving up something in
one of these three areas
is more likely to lead
you to your Mr. or Ms.
Right.
Here is a list of five
things you should
consider giving up if
you want to attract your
Mr. or Ms. Right:
1. Give up anger at the
opposite sex.
You can tell when people
have a chip on their
shoulders. And yet those
who are angry and
disappointed with the
opposite sex think their
feelings are
undetectable. If you can
truly give up the anger,
you have a much better
chance of attracting the
partner you want.
2. Give up on your past
relationships.
Most of us can tell when
someone is unavailable
or ambivalent about
dating because of an
unfinished relationship.
If you hope that one of
your past partners will
come back, others will
be able to tell. Your
ideal partner will
surely want a completely
available partner.
You'll be hard pressed
to attract him or her
until you are completely
available.
3. Give up trying to be
perfect in order to
attract a mate.
As long as you think
your body, your
pocketbook or your
emotional well-being
have to be in perfect
shape in order to be
loved, you will remain
alone. A state of
perfection can seldom be
achieved - we are as
human beings are
inherently imperfect.
You are peachy just as
you are for some lucky
person out there.
4. Give up protecting
yourself from hurt.
Lots of singles devise
all sorts of tests to
make sure potential
partners won't hurt them
the way they were hurt
in the past. This never
works because people
know when they are being
tested and will either
fake it or fail on
purpose. Instead, become
the type of person who
is seldom mistreated and
who can set strong,
clear boundaries.
5. Give up looking for a
relationship.
Looking for a
relationship is like
looking for a needle in
a haystack. Although
singles ads and dating
services have some
success, and are good
for getting lots of
dating experiences,
most people still meet
their life partner by
chance. Your best bet
for finding your Mr. or
Ms. Right is to have a
wonderful life now.
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| About
the Author |
| Having
coined the phrase
"relationship
coach," Master
Certified Coach Rinatta
Paries works with
singles to help them
attract their ideal
relationship, and helps
couples create more love
and fulfillment in their
existing relationships.
Visit her web site at www.WhatItTakes.com
or e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.
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