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A
Rough Sort of Justice:
Enlarging the Male Organ
By
Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ
Coach
Like everyone else, I start my
day deleting the email ads for
enlarging the penis. “I’m
a girl,” I want to shout.
“Leave me alone. Go away and take those
Ukrainian bride ads with
you.” And still they come, along with
the colonic cleansings, the
MLM marketing schemes, and the
buy-codeine-online. It’s not
really such a big deal. You learn to
recognize them by title and
delete them.
But that’s not what this
article is about.
What it’s about is, I do
stop and think from
time-to-time, “What is it like for men to read
this over and over?” Penis
pills, patches, herbal supplements
and various contraptions
claiming to enlarge the penis so many
inches in so many months.
Well, actually the first thing
that comes to my mind is,
“How do they get away with this?"
Christopher Michaud offers the
explanation in his article,
“Spam E-mail Plays on
Men’s Deepest Fear” (TD Waterhouse
Research) -- “Since the
products have disclaimers stating they are
not intended to treat medical problems, they fall outside
the US regulatory process. The
Federal Trade Commission (FTC)
says there is no evidence the products have any effect.”
Indeed Michaud was unable to
find any peer-reviewed studies
comparing men who use these
products to any placebo group and doubts
they’ve ever been conducted.
So … buyer beware. This is
nothing new. US consumers have
to have their heads about them.
However, Michaud goes on to
talk
about the “primal
obsession” these aids are
preying upon. He quotes Dr. Frank Muscarella, a
clinical and evolutionary psychiatrist at Barry
University, Miami Shores, FL,
who says,
“The penis is a primary
symbol of male sexuality and
dominance.” Oh, maybe so, but money and
power are also.
Now, here’s where I move
over into the rough justice
part, for while the world is not fair,
there’s a sort of rough
justice out there (don’t know who said
that but it’s not original
to me). The particulars of my own
situation are of no import
here. But needless to say, I wasn’t
born looking like Marilyn
Monroe, or
Britney Spears, or whatever
the current fad happened to
me. Nor were many of my friends and
clients (coaching). However, I
hasten to add, I’m also not
a “dog.” What we women go
through re: the scrutiny, comparison,
and judgment of our physical appearance from puberty onward
is … now being experienced
by men! (What is this word
“dog”???)
For what do men want in a
woman? Unmindful or
unenlightened men, or maybe all men? The first
thing they want on a dating
service is a photo, the first thing
they want to know about a
blind date is “is she fat”? I’ve
even been asked this on the
phone. “Are you fat?” [Shall I now
reply, "Do you have a
tiny penis?"] My psychologist friend tells me
men sit in her office, 40 lbs.
overweight with their
beer-bellies hanging over
their belts, and say they must have a woman
who’s “thin.” Some men.
Not all men.
I’m not a male basher, but
if you’ve been on the other
side of the fence, that is to say, a
woman, you can’t help but be
affected by this emphasis on
APPEARANCE. After all there
are
many industries built on this
“primal obsession” of
women which was at least in part created.
After all, the Renaissance
ideal woman was “statuesque” and
the Venus of Willendorf is
exceptionally well-endowed.
All over. The ideal was not
always bone thin.
Does having blond hair make me
a better lover? Does weighing
125 lbs. make me a better wife?
Does wearing a D cup make me a
better companion? Does having
legs from here to there make
me a better person?
Of course not.
And does having a bigger penis
… make any significance at
all regarding what a man is like,
as a person, a lover, a
friend, companion or husband?
Does the size make a
difference? I haven’t done
the definitive survey, but most women just
laugh. And then quickly add,
“It’s poetic justice.”
How so? Because now men get a
chance to see what it’s like
to be judged by physical appearance
only, by a surface thing, like
big
boobs. And to have it
continually thrust, you should
pardon the expression, in their faces all
day long. Like those
television ads of nubile young women. How
so “judged”? It’s about
raising awareness. Would I have
stopped to consider the size
of a man’s penis? Maybe so, maybe not,
but now that I read it about
it all
day long ….
I can see some 15 year old
girl writing on her list of
desirable qualities in a man, “Must
have large penis.”
Yes, I’ve read the stuff - a
woman with the Fibonacci ratio
figure projects good health,
good breeding possibilities
(and may in fact have them), but
the basis was GOOD HEALTH. And
some functionality there. You
don’t have to wear a D cup
to be able to nurse a baby, the original
intent of those things.
Somewhere
we moved to … well, after
those beer billboard ads,
what’s a fella to do? Men are visual?
Well soon women may be as
well.
It’s not an ideal world, no
it is not, it is far from one,
and I'm not the first to tell you
this, but of all the things
you judge by, why would it be
something superficial? And if
you’re a
guy who’s having trouble
coping with this, talk to a
woman who’s 25 lbs. overweight. She might
have some tips on putting sad nonsense into perspective.
About the author:
©Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach,
http://www.susandunn.cc
. I
coach
around emotional intelligence
for wellness, success, and personal and professional
development. I also offer
distance learning courses and ebooks,
and train and certify EQ
coaches. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for
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