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Break
the Pattern of Abusive
Relationships
by Nancy Fagan, M.S.
Women who get involved with
abusive men are typically
those who had abusive
childhood home environments.
This kind of upbringing tends
to normalize abusive behavior
in all relationships. What
this means is that women from
this kind of a background are
not as keen to the subtleties
of abuse the way
"healthy" women are.
On
a positive note, there is a
silver lining here-all
behavior can be relearned,
including the ability to
recognize early signs of abuse
as unacceptable behaviors in a
relationship. Once this is
learned, a woman will be able
to break free from unhealthy
relationships with men who are
no good for her.
Below
is a list of common abusive
behaviors to watch for:
- Criticism about your
good qualities;
- Past abusive
relationships;
- Criminal activities;
- Drinking or drug
problems, past or present;
- Mood swings;
- Discourages your
successes;
- Jealousy;
- Abusive family members
or spouses of siblings;
- Attempts to control your
whereabouts;
- Disrespect toward your
publicly or privately;
- Violations of others
rights;
- Irresponsibility;
- Attempts to keep you
isolated;
- Persistent lying;
- History of truancy,
delinquency and running
away;
- Highly reactive;
- Streaks of meanness
toward others for no
reason;
- Threatened by
relationships with other
men, past, present or
imagined.
In
order to recognize early
abusive signs, a woman must
stop rationalizing
"abusive" behaviors
as "normal." If she
sees ONE abusive behavior,
regardless of how small, she
needs to remind herself that
it IS abuse. Period! With this
new skill, she will soon be
dating men who treat her with
dignity and respect-the way
all women deserve to be
treated.
Nancy
Fagan, M.S., author of “The
Complete Idiot’s Guide to
Romance” and
“Desirable Men: How to Find
Them.” To read more, visit
http://www.expertdatingadvice.com/.
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