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Eight
Characteristics That Give a
Man The Best Chance To Score
By
Mike Pilinski
For a man, successfully
meeting women is all about how
you ACT. Period. Sure, you have to look
halfway decent in the way you dress, stay groomed and not
stink like the chunk of two month
old polish sausage that I just
found hiding in the back of my
refrigerator the other day...
but the make-or-break factor
is and always will be the WORDS
that come out of your mouth,
and the ATTITUDE that underlies
it.
With that in mind, here's
eight points to load into your
mental backpack when you're getting
ready to go off to battle
(which is to say, every day of your
life...)
1) Remain Focused on the Game
-- The art of attracting women
is all about knowing how to engage them with a natural
curiosity that shows you are at least a
little bit interested in
*their* world (WARNING: too much = a
slick phoney, so be careful).
Look for LifeLines (anything that
she's hinting she would be
open to talking about) and stay
committed to working them. Forget about
yourself. Fade out your own
ego. There'll be plenty of
time in the future to gab about your
own amazing life.
Remember this: you are NEVER
desperately looking for an
"ear to bend" -- you are always
looking to draw HER out
instead. Only those lost souls with limited
social contact hungrily crave the
attention of any person they
can corner into listening to
their non-stop yabbering (I'm not
trying to sound cruel here,
just honest).
Tune out the surrounding world
and focus in on her as if you were the only two people in
the universe. If done properly
(without any subservient
whimpering), this kind of
attention is flattering to her in an almost
breathtakingly way.
2) Stay Calm -- Above all
else, act like you're familiar
with this whole process. Seduction
always begins as a low
pressure event. Place her at ease with
your laid back demeanor, and let
her slowly begin to feed off
of it. Be a lighthearted
flirt. Don't be obvious -- keep your
interest vague so as to give everyone an "out"
to
protect all egos involved
(both yours and hers). She will appreciate
your tactful approach immensely, and
be impressed with your consideration and charm.
3) Demonstrate Charisma (Likability)
-- Sometime during the course of the evening,
offer a
single simple compliment about
something unique to her style
and presentation about
herself. No canned "You have such
beautiful eyes..."
compliments. Don't go overboard or make a big deal
about ANY compliments that you
pay her. Make them seem casual and
unplanned (a sudden pleasant thought that just popped into
your head and slipped out
before you could stop it...), then
IMMEDIATELY move on to other
topics. Trust me, she heard it.
4) Touch Her To Seduce Her --
Use any excuse you can dream
up to get a hand on her. Of course I
mean only in the appropriate places... an arm, shoulder, a
hair brushback. Do not grope
her like a desperate
fool. Touch is extremely important because it
demonstrates a sexual,
"manly" interest in
her and keeps you away from the deadly
"nice-guy-friend" category. Just make sure
you always keep it classy.
5) Risk Taking Is A Turn-On --
Take a chance... a bold
comment, break the speed limit,
whatever... Stay unpredictable
and keep her a little off balance. Men
are powerful and at ease with themselves , right? (see item
#2...)
6) Be A Man, Not A Boy -- Keep
your apartment styled in a
mature fashion -- avoid the frat-house look even though
your football buddies will probably declare
you a big puss. A few REAL
house plants (the kind you actually
have to water... yee-gads!),
and dark solids everywhere. A few
*paintings* (don't spend a fortune, just hit the flea
markets) instead of the Pam
Anderson poster. Got it? Also (very
important) junk the
"bunk" and get yourself a double-sized bed
(because you entertain female
company from time to time,
that's why) Time to bury the
Star Wars bed sheets too. Keep a
few bottles of wine in stock
and the kind of goodies hiding around
the house that a girl would
like (popcorn, cheese, ice cream,
etc.) for when you want to veg
out in front of the tube and get
her loosened up.
7) Nurture The Trance Of
Romance -- Take her out to see
a mushy chick flick by surprise...
make a dinner and light a
silly candle on a "spontaneous" whim
(nothing is spontaneous to a
real Seducer...). Do the things
that trigger those romantic
thoughts and dreams that attract women
naturally by pulling up all
their fuzziest memories. You'll
score major points for creativity!
8) Project The Attitude Of The
High Status Male -- You must NEVER allow yourself to act
like a fawning "nice
guy"... but you always want to SEEM like one.
Imagine you have a harem waiting for you
back home, and you're trying
to determine if she would make a
nice new addition. I'm
serious. This is the kind of unspoken
"winners" attitude
that you must keep burning in the far
recesses of your mind at all times when
you're dating women.
Assume that she likes you and
will respond favorably to your
charm, but never assume you have a green light to start
telling fart jokes or break into your
full blown comedy club
routine.
Humor is all about the CLEVER
observation of the absurdities
of everyday life -- not the repeating of dumb jokes you
read in Hustler or doing your lame
celebrity impressions...
("Do I make you horny baby?") That's
why they call it a SENSE of
humor... you need to base your wit
on
what you *sense* to be going
on around you, which often lies
beneath the obvious.
So there you have it. Try a
few of these attitude
adjustments for yourself -- maybe just
as
an experiment if you can't
face the idea of actually changing
anything permanently about yourself. Let me know what
happens.
About the author:
Mike Pilinski is the author of
"Without Embarrassment", a new
e-book designed to show men
how to develop unique
psychological
defenses to protect themselves
from ever having to fear being
rejected again. Visit http://www.highstatusmale.com
and pick up
a FREE copy of the 25 page
Mini-Course "The Three
Keys to Seducing Any Woman"
**Official Author's Website**
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