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5
Ways to Refresh Your
Relationship
By
Rinatta Paries
A relationship is like a
delicate rose bush. If you
care for it, it will bloom year after year
with unsurpassed beauty. If
you don't, you might end up with a
dull, lifeless entity that is
struggling to survive.
Below are five ideas to keep
your relationship in bloom for
years to come.
If you are single, read these
tips with an eye on what you
will want to do in a long-term
relationship. If you are in a relationship, pick one or two
of the five ideas and
integrate
them into your relationship
now. You will be amazed at how
many nice feelings you can create
quickly by taking a few simple
steps.
1. Make time for your
relationship week after week.
Take time for each other every single
week. For most couples, it is
a good idea to have a standing date
night. Communicate to your
friends, kids, everyone, that this
night is reserved especially
for the two of you. Keep the date
every week, no matter what.
Make it
your priority.
2. Do fun, pleasurable things
together. Sharing fun and
pleasure fosters intimacy. Intimacy is
what relationships are all
about.
Share good meals, share play
time, share jokes and funny
movies, share outdoor activities. What
matters most is that the
activity is fun and pleasurable for
each of you.
3. Do long-term activities as
a couple. Do something
long-term together. Learn about
investments, take dance
lessons, refinish
the furniture, reach your
fitness goals. Do some
long-term activity that will enrich and
interest each of you,
together. By doing this you will stay
connected to each other and
foster common ground in the
relationship. Make sure that
this is above and beyond child rearing.
4. Resolve conflict quickly.
It is hard to say you are
sorry in the heat of an argument. In
some ways it is easier to have
a fight and go into your
separate corners. But
unresolved
conflict, or conflict that
lingers, fosters long-term
hurt and resentment. It's ok to
disagree. But it's important
to find a resolution quickly.
5. Keep the romance alive. In
a long-term relationship,
romance is not something that happens
automatically most of the
time.
Everyday pressures and time
constraints have a tendency to
rob us of spontaneity. Romance
needs to be consciously
created. Remember that romance will
keep your relationship fresh
and exciting and will keep the two
of you close. Take turns
creating romance intentionally.
(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002.
Do you know how to attract
your ideal mate? Do you know how to
build a fulfilling
relationship, or how to reinvent yours to
meet your needs? Relationship
Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you
the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term,
healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where
you'll find quizzes, classes,
advice and a free weekly ezine.
Become a "true love
magnet(tm)!"
About the author:
Having coined the phrase
"relationship
coach," Master Certified Coach Rinatta Paries works
with singles to help them
attract their ideal relationship, and
helps couples create more love
and fulfillment in their existing
relationships. Visit her web
site
at www.WhatItTakes.com or
e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.
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