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Ten
Ways To Blow It In A Relationship
By
Rinatta Paries
What do you do when you've
attracted a lovely person into
your life and now you're terrified
you're going to blow it? Or, terrified it's going to end?
Arm yourself with the
following strategies, and
you're sure to blow it in a relationship
right from the start.
1. Assume the person is your
soul mate immediately upon
meeting or shortly thereafter. Look
for signs that faith has
brought you together and be amazed by the
correlations in your lives.
2. Forget about your life,
your friends, your self-care.
When you have a soul mate, why
would you need a life outside
of the relationship?
3. Reveal everything, and test
your partner with your worst behavior. Let it all hang out.
After all, if this is truly
your soul mate, he or she will love
you no matter what.
4. Have sex right away. If you
are meant to be together for a
lifetime, you might as well
get started on the fun part
right away.
5. Ignore anything about your
partner that does not mesh
with your values, lifestyle, or
belief system. True love can
conquer such insignificant
differences.
6. Do lots of drama together.
Job, family, and life crises
are great ways to establish a
relationship and test whether
or not you are meant to be together.
7. Spend as much time together
as possible. When it's true
love, you can't bear to let your
partner out of your sight.
8. Ignore behavior that
crosses your boundaries or
hurts your feelings. It's true love, so
it's ok.
9. Lavish a huge amount of
attention on your partner or
expect a huge amount of attention to be
lavished on you. How else
would you act if you finally found
your soul mate?
10. Push the relationship
forward and demand that it go
deeper, in spite of where your partner
is emotionally. You have the right to have the relationship
be exactly how you want it to
be and your soul mate owes you
that.
If you want some insurance
that your new relationship has
every chance of making it, be…
* Honest * Communicative *
Clear about your needs and
boundaries * A good listener
On the other hand, your
relationship may end no matter
what you do. But being in fear it will
end actually makes the end
more likely. To eradicate this
fear, let go of the attachment
that the person you are with be THE
right person. Simply be with
him or her one day at a time.
(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002.
Do you know how to attract
your ideal mate? Do you know how to
build a fulfilling
relationship, or how to reinvent yours to
meet your needs? Relationship
Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you
the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term,
healthy partnerships. Visit
www.WhatItTakes.com where
you'll find quizzes, classes,
advice and a free weekly ezine.
Become a "true love
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About the author:
Having coined the phrase
"relationship
coach," Master Certified Coach Rinatta Paries works
with singles to help them
attract their ideal relationship, and
helps couples create more love
and fulfillment in their existing
relationships. Visit her web
site at: www.WhatItTakes.com
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